Sound Christian relationship advice is even more important today than it was just a few decades ago. Let’s face it, these days navigating the dating minefield is hard enough even for those who do let Hollywood movies and popular magazines dictate their opinion. When you plan to stick to moral values that sometimes go against today’s social norms, though, it gets even more complicated.
To make matters worse, Christian relationship advice isn’t easy to find. After all, the Scriptures are fairly quiet on the subject of dating. If you’re starting to feel lost, here are some things to keep in mind.
Don’t feel pressured!
You and only you are responsible for your behavior. Modern society can be pretty casual about things like club hopping and having “friends with benefits” and it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you if you don’t want those things.
Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong about maintaining Christian values, so don’t let anyone make you feel like “uncool” for doing so. Compromise your morals and not only will you be angry with yourself for it, you’ll end up with a relationship you’re not happy with. There really isn’t anything to gain from it.
Get a Christian perspective!
If you’re getting your relationship advice from a hodgepodge of self-help books and daytime talk shows, well, you’re bound to get confused. If you want solid Christian relationship advice, seek out material by and for Christians.
Advice on things like breaking up, dating someone of a different denomination or a non-Christian, and how far to take physical intimacy are all going to be a little different coming from a Christian than from anyone else. After all, that’s the whole point of Christian relationship advice. That’s not to say you should only read material written by Christians, of course. Getting a different perspective is useful, too. Just make sure you consider the source before you actually take the advice.
Hang out with other Christians!
Sounds obvious, doesn’t it? But do you actually do it? If you want to date Christians, you’ve got to go where the Christians are. When you’re busy with school, work, and other responsibilities, though, it’s easy to forget to set a side time for that. You need to make a point of looking for Christian volunteer activities and fellowship groups where you can meet some new people.
Date for marriage!
If you’re dating because you want to find a life partner, dating specifically for marriage will save you both time and a whole lot of heartache. Keep in mind, too, that just because a Christian isn’t dating just for the chance to sleep around, that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re dating for marriage.
They may just be dating to have some fun on the weekends. Don’t be shy about asking your date if they’re currently looking for “the one.” If they’re not and you are, you may want to stop seeing them and look for someone more marriage minded.
If you’re hoping to find a fulfilling, loving relationship with another devout Christian, have faith that there’s someone out there looking for someone like you, too. With a little determination and some trustworthy Christian relationship advice, you stand a pretty good chance of finding them.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
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Ok so here's the problem I have with this advice. Its all impeccable and all, sure, but none of it applies to my current situation.
ReplyDeleteI like a guy who is Christian. I'm slightly over weight and I have serious inferiority complexes. I have never dated and every guy i've ever asked out doesnt seem into me. i cannot help but relate it back to my looks. as a result, even though i was advised otherwise, I think that this guy is that way too.
Although on the other hand i cannot help but wonder if he IS into me. We smile a lot in each others' presence and when we talk. Even if its about boring stuff. And at this dance i attended, I slow danced with him. It was the most awkward 2 minutes of my life. I hated it. Because we were both uncomfortable. DOnt get me wrong im still really interested in him. But i just dont know if he feels the same way or not. I just wish i had more interaction with him. Or i wish i knew what he's thinking.
HI Anon,
ReplyDeleteAll of us have inferiority complexes whether we're tall , short , thin or whatever . Life is a moment there is no here after ... We need to overcome our fears and be confident . I hope you and this guy are happy two years later. . .
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